Last night, I decided to watch a movie I hadn’t seen in over 24 years: Sleepless in Seattle. I liked it then, and I liked it last night.
It’s the classic chick flick. Total fantasy for women, kind of like Die Hard is complete fantasy for men. (Yes, Bruce Willis does exactly what I would do if I were in that situation.)
I mean, even the male actors act like they act when women fantasize about how their men should act – basically like women with testes…
But it was well done. There was enough humor to make it enjoyable. Tom Hanks did a great job, as always. And Meg Ryan was great. She really was a knockout and played that type of role flawlessly.
That being said, here are a few things that I took away from the movie that didn’t really occur to me when I watched it the first time in 1993.
Men age better than women when it comes to acting.
It occurred to me while watching the movie that Meg Ryan probably hit her prime right around that time. Why? Because she had the right look for Hollywood actresses: young, beautiful, no wrinkles, perfect hair. I just looked her up on google images just now, and while she still looks great, it seems she’s not as useful to hollywood producers.
Tom Hanks, meanwhile, is still going strong. He has aged as well, but men for some reason have more longevity than women.
Not a complaint, just an observation.
Annie got what she wanted because she acted on her desires.
Meg Ryan’s character is named Annie. She hears Hanks’ character’s son call into a radio show about how sad his dad is because his wife passed away 18 months prior. He had moved from Chicago to Seattle.
Annie is immediately taken with this story. Like several hundred other women across the country, she writes him a letter saying how she feels for him. But it goes much deeper than that.
Annie hires a P.I. to get some photos of the guy, (whose name is Sam). She actually gets on a plane to try to meet this guy she’s never met. It’s completely ridiculous, and she definitely ran the risk of making a complete fool of herself.
But she had this deep desire to find a man that brings “magic” to her – and when she saw an opportunity, she pounced on it.
She even broke up with her well to do fiancé to go to the Empire State Building, a la An Affair to Remember, which is playing oftentimes in the background throughout the movie. (A great movie if you ever get the chance to watch it, btw.)
In the end, her huge gamble – and more important, her willingness to act on her desires – pays off. Due to some clever Hollywood writing, they serendipitously meet – at the top of the ESB of course – and are all googly eyed over each other as the closing credits begin.
The best line in the movie is when Annie gets to the ESB, but (of course) they’ve closed down the elevator for the day, which leads to this:
So, if you didn’t get all that, get this…
If you have a deep-seated desire, it’s going to remain just a desire unless you act on it. And it takes more than putting a letter in the mail (or the 2018 equivalent).
It takes significant action, a willingness to risk making a complete fool of yourself.
And the fear of not trying must be more compelling than any fear that acting on your desire may bring.